Principal Message

PRINCIPALSMESSAGE

DearFriends,

Education is all about creating a sound mindwithin a sound body, encompassing the all round development of an individual.Education shouldnt be equated to academic excellence alone as success is nothing but an illusion of the mind that tells us thatwe have reached our goals relative to our surroundings. Not everyone will turn out to be an Einstein or a Newton. As parents andteachers one must set realistic goals for children. This assumes greatersignificance in todays milieu where academic success is the only yardstick tomeasure the success of a child, which is very unfair. While formal education isimportant, stress should be laid on developing intrinsic values and characterbuilding also. We must celebrate and appreciate even the smallest achievementof a child .Appreciation is an awareness of how special, how lucky, how unique, howblessed, how big, wonderful or awesome something is. The greatest gift that one can give a child is the art ofappreciation.

In thewords of Albert Schweitzer, Sometimes our light goes out, but is blownagain into flame by an encounter with another human being. Each of us owes thedeepest thanks to those who have rekindled this inner light." In thiscontext Id like to share a simple story I read while surfing the net.

 

Whatto appreciate, when and how: an Important Lesson!

Oneyoung academically excellent person went for an interview for a managerialposition in a big company. He passed the first interview; BUT in that Company,the director did the last interview, made the last decision. The directordiscovered from the CV, that the youth's academic result was excellent all theway, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never was therea year he did not score. The director asked, "Did you obtain anyscholarship in school?" and the youth answered "no. The directorasked, Did your father pay your school fees?". The youth answered,"My father passed away when I was one year old and it was my mother whopaid my school fees. The director asked, Where did your mother work?"the youth answered, "my mother worked as cloth cleaner." The directorrequested the youth to show his hands and the youth showed a pair of hands thatwas smooth and perfect to the director.

Thedirector asked, Did you ever help your mother wash clothes before?" Theyouth answered," never, my mother always wanted me to study and read morebooks; furthermore, my mother could wash clothes faster than I could. Thedirector said, I have a request, when you go backtoday, go and help to clean your mother's hand, and then see me tomorrowmorning.

The youth felt that the chance of landing the job was high and when he wentback, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hands. His mother felt strange.With happiness mixed with fear, she showed her hands to the kid. The youthcleaned his mother's hands slowly and his tears fell as he did that. It was thefirst time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and that therewere so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that sheshuddered when his mother's hands were cleaned with water. This is the firsttime that the youth realized and experienced that it is this pair of hands thatwashed the clothes every day to earn him the school fees and that the bruisesin the mother's hand were the price that the mother paid for his graduation andacademic excellence and probably his future. After finishing the cleaning ofhis mother's hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for hismother. That night, the mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the director's office. The director noticed thetear in the youth's eye and asked: Can you tell what you did and learntyesterday in your house?"The youth answered, Icleaned my mother's hands and also finished washing all the remaining clothes.The director asked, "Please tell me what you felt".

Theyouth said: "Number 1, I knowwhat appreciation is now'. Without my mother, I would not be successful today. Number 2, now I know how to worktogether with my mother. Only now do I realize how difficult and tough it is toget something done. Number 3, I knowthe importance and value of family relationship."The director said, This is what I am asking, I want to recruit a personthat can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the suffering ofothers to get things done, and a person that would not put money as his onlygoal in life to be my manager. You are hired.

TheLessons from this anecdote: 

A child, whohas been protected and habitually given whatever he needs, develops"entitlement mentality" and always puts himself first. He is ignorantof his parents' efforts. When he starts work, he assumes every person mustlisten to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferingof his employees and always blame others. These kinds of people, may/willachieve good results and may be successful for a while, but eventually wouldnot feel a sense of achievement or satisfaction.

Ifwe happen to be this kind of (protective) parent, this is the time to ask thequestion- whether we do love our kids or destroy them.

-Youcan let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn to play the piano,watch a big screen TV but when you are cutting grass, please let themexperience it.

-Aftera meal, let them wash their plate and bowl together with their brothers andsisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it isbecause you want to love and show them the correct way. You want them tounderstand that no matter how rich their parent are, one day they will growold, become weak and that their hair too will grow grey,.

-Themost important thing is for your kid to learn how to appreciate, experience andlearn the effort and ability needed to work with others to get things done.They should also value, appreciate what the parents have done and love them forwho they are!